Entitled sister insists she bring her 3 step children and 2 bio kids to her sibling's in law's lake house, sibling refuses to indulge her: ‘It's not our house’

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Mar 1, 2025 9:00 PM EST

When you marry into a family, some of what's theirs becomes yours, too. You get to have access to that spiffy vacation home in the Adirondacks and their winter cabin in Vail—you "chose" your chosen family well. However, some biological family members might try to get in on the gold you scored with your in-laws. Sure, if your sister wants to bring her two children to your in-laws' lake house and your in-laws are okay with it, that's fine. But once new faces are thrown into the mix and she expects you to be equally as welcoming to them, that's when things get complicated… especially when it's not even your home.

In this next story, a woman explains that her sister has recently started seeing a man who has three children from different women. Her sister has two biological children of her own who are well-acquainted with the woman's in-laws, which is why she and her two children were invited to the in-laws' lake house for a fun time. Except, now, the woman's sister expects her in-laws to host her new beau and her three stepchildren…

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  • The woman who posted this story describes her sister as always being a “handful”. Fair enough—siblings have a way of getting under our skin. Her sister met a man who has a poor track record of monogamy and fidelity, as shown in his multiple children who have different mothers. Given these facts, the woman hasn't met her sister's new step children once and does not feel comfortable hosting children she isn't familiar with at her in-laws’ house. Her sister is not thrilled. 

  • "Now that my sister is with this guy, she thought everyone would get an invite."
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  • "AITA for not inviting my sister’s new step-kids to my in-laws lake house?"

    Hello! My sister is in her mid-30s and I'm almost 30 (RIP to my 20s). She's always been the handful and can be difficult. She got divorced officially a year ago
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  • but was separated for a lot longer. She's been with this guy named Rick for a while. He has 3 kids with 3 different moms. The two older kids are teens. The most recent kid (baby) happened
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  • while dating my sister when he cheated on her. She decided to still see him and now she's pregnant with his 4th kid and now she is his 4th baby mama?
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  • She has two kids with her now ex-husband. So, lots of kids. I basically told her I'm not thrilled that you stayed with this guy that cheated on you but it's your life.
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  • Onto the issue. My in-laws are wealthy and have multiple properties. Their newest one is a lake house that's tons of fun and in a nice area. Last year my sister and my niece and nephew came
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  • and it was a great time. My plan is to go every year and I was hoping my niece and nephew would get to go each year. Now that my sister is with this guy, she thought everyone would get an invite.
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  • My issue isn't against the kids but I don't know Rick or any of his other kids. I haven't met them once so it's odd to me to invite them. Plus, I don't know these other moms. I just think there's
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  • too much risk involved inviting minors that my husband and I don't even know. The other moms could sue if someone gets hurt for all I know. The lake house has jet skis, water trampolines,
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  • boating, tubing, water slides, etc. which could cause injury. Just for some information- this Rick guy was on track to be some pro athlete when these other moms were around so I'm already
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  • assuming they were gold diggers and after money. Rick is definitely not wealthy by any means with child support and supporting all these kids with his career.
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  • Also, it's not our house. My in- laws are kind enough to allow me to invite my sister, my niece, and my nephew but adding on 4 extra people is a little much in my
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  • opinion. I was at my niece and nephews births and they know my husband and in-laws really well so I think it's just an entirely different situation.
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  • I told my sister today that her, my niece, and nephew are invited but not everyone else. My sister's response is that they won't be going because they're "one unit" and "it all needs to be fair". It's so
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  • unfortunate because my niece and nephew will now be missing out. So, AITAH in this situation? My husband said no as well so it's not just me.
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  • Cozy Raindrop Your sister's new step-kids are basically Pokemon at this point, gotta catch 'em all. But in all seriousness, it's important to prioritize your own comfort and safety when it comes to inviting strangers into someone else's property. Your sister may be upset, but ultimately it's not your responsibility to accommodate her and her new partner's blended family. You're NTA in this situation.
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  • Flimsy-Wolverine-663 Not your circus, not your monkeys. Sorry for sis, but she made her(shared) bed.
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  • mishi_1973 Nope, your NTA. You make very valid points. I also see her point of view. In her mind, they are a packaged deal, so it is ultimately her choice to either let your niblings come to the lake house or not.
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  • I wonder, do the other moms invite your niblings to outings with the step kids and would she trust them to go? I have a feeling the answer would be no, so she shouldn't be upset with you either
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  • Oubliette_95 I know so little about the other kids that I couldn't even answer that question unfortunately
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  • Revolutionary Diet... NTA It is not your home. You would be acting entitled if you invited her & the whole group of strangers to your In Laws house.
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  • Tired-DogMama-... The house IS NOT HERS, so she cannot just invite a bunch of kids she hardly knows. The in laws know the niece and nephew.
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  • UseObjectiveEvid... You invited her plus your nephew and niece. She refused. Not your problem. anymore.
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